Bound by "I Love You".

The ties that bind when you can’t say the words “I love you”; are invisible. They can’t be cut, they can’t be torn. They bind, they hold, they keep you uncomfortable.

Whether it’s because you can’t tell a person you love them, because you don’t use that word, or whether you can’t tell a person because they don’t want to hear it from YOU…

It’s the same.

Those thick invisible ties hold you down, stop you from flying, keep every inch of your skin feeling a hundred times heavier than it is.

Unlike the reverse…

The freedom in saying the words “I love you” is light and airy, it’s like soaring. The lack of ties gets felt as much in the reverse. It too is invisible, but instead of making your heart feel strangled, bound, hurt… you get to feel light, comfortable, and happy.

I know two people, each feeling this. One unable, the other unwilling. Both are feeling they want freedom… one to be free to express love and revel in it, the other to be free from feeling love, and not have to live with it.


An interesting thing about this, is neither are saying what they want to say, letting the words fall out. Honestly, or being brave.

So... this post comes with a song, by the musical genius Sara Bareilles. Lyrics below if you want them.

Brave
You can be amazing
You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
And they settle ‘neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

Everybody’s been there, everybody’s been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

Innocence, your history of silence
Won’t do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave